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End of Life Tragedy (My Story)
Your mother was fortunate to have had you to rescue and care for her. What a blessing she gave you that *she* was smiling and grateful for last rites. The final journey feels right for her. You'll miss her always,she's your Mama, but her faith is taking her there with joy, can you ask for more?
Be good to yourself, you deserve it.
Hi Martin --
Your mom is so lucky to have you. From everything you've written, you've taken excellent care of your mom.
Be sure to give yourself space and be extra nice to yourself.
Oh, man, Martin, this is the toughest part. I'm chiming in to tell you my mother lingered much longer than hospice thought she would too. They called it a "death plateau" and said it was not uncommon for dementia people at the end of their lives to kind of stall out. She finally passed while I was sitting next to her, eating a taco and watching a movie. As my sister said later, it wasn't one of those big Hollywood moments you think it's going to be.
In some ways she made it easier on us by staying so much longer than she should have. By the time she did died, of course we were heartbroken, but also truly relieved which had my sister and I doubting how good of kids we could be if we were happy she was finally gone. Well, happy is not exactly the right word, but when it happens for your mom you might feel a little bit the same.
I'm hoping for a peaceful passing when she's finally ready, for all of you.