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"A Life Worth Ending" by Michael Wolff
Thank you for pointing us to this article...very well written and completely descriptive of what we are all going through.
I've been struggling for some time with thoughts about whether or not all the vast amount of medical care/tests/pharmaceuticals/surgery, etc for the "very old" is really worth it in terms of quality of life. I watch my parents, both in in their early 90, struggle daily with the simplest of tasks. My dad's situation is multiplied many fold by his AD and my mother's situation is complicated by her myriad of medical issues all of which are draining her daily of strength. She probably has 3 to 4 visits a month with various doctors (she comes from the generation that believes doctors can cure anything), most of which end up with another prescription. Her bathroom looks like a drugstore. Each medication has side effects that are handled with another prescription. I don't want to be like that so I work hard now to eat in a healthy way and to exercise daily. I am not on any medication and intend to stay that way for the remainder of my life.
Honey I just read the article.....Incredibly well written and brave.....
I read the comments, out of curiosity more than anything...the majority of them were supportive and thanked the Author for the article...I was pleasantly surprised...although, that was here in the states..on the Daily Mail website in the UK there were several , shall I say unkind responses....
We on these boards know the real affect and devastation of Dementia in its various forms..I hope that the bravery of the Author will encourage people to look with open eyes at what they are faced with...and give some sort of peace to those who have walked the path to where it splits off...
I have kept you in my nightly affirmations my dear....
What a great article! Thank you for pointing the way.
My genes may just spare me the agony of living an extraordinarily long life. My father died 2 years ago at 71, mom died at 70. I'm going to enjoy myself and it wouldn't bother me at all if I didn't make it anywhere near 90.
I enjoyed the article as well.
I live in 1 of 2 states that have the "Right to Die" law.
My parents ate right, went to the Y 3 days a week religiously, traveled, social, did puzzles, went to the docs, etc.......
Now they are 93 AML (leukemia) and 95 AD.........for myself, after watching their lives, I don't see the point of being so good, that they are now like this and outlive everyone but their "grown" kids in their 60's. As the author stated the old fashioned way, heart attack..........I'll take that over what my parents have. Just my opinion for my life.
Excellent read, preaching to the choir here.
"The traditional exits, of a sudden heart attack, of dying in one’s sleep, of unreasonably dropping dead in the street, of even a terminal illness, are now exotic ways of going. The longer you live the longer it will take to die. The better you have lived the worse you may die. The healthier you are—through careful diet, diligent exercise, and attentive medical scrutiny—the harder it is to die. Part of the advance in life expectancy is that we have technologically inhibited the ultimate event. We have fought natural causes to almost a draw. If you eliminate smokers, drinkers, other substance abusers, the obese, and the fatally ill, you are left with a rapidly growing demographic segment peculiarly resistant to death’s appointment—though far, far, far from healthy."
A couple of weeks ago at my Caregivers group, there was an excellent speaker; a geriatric psychologist who was in our age group. He spoke of the same topic. Our parents did not have to (generally) take care of their elderly parents while they suffered from dementia, since people died of "natural causes" and did not live as long as they are living today.
The general consensus was that we would all rather die from natural causes than suffer through dementia due to living to such advanced ages. This is not "living".