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Ideas on getting LO to accept a possible move from home?
I just moved my mother. Very difficult decision to make. My Mother does not think she needs help and refused to move from her home of many years. I had her PCP and Neurologist tell her she needed to move. She did not agree and insisted that she could manage in her home. I finally got to a point where I just had to make the decision and set the date. I took her to several facilities but she could never remember visiting or at least that is what she told me. Two Saturdays before the move we talked about her moving and she had a fit. At that point there was no turning back because the movers had been scheduled and the facility deposit had been made.
Four days after being in the facility she is sleeping and eating some. I have not been able to visit or call but check in with the nurse station twice per day. She is telling the staff that I will be coming to get her. Until she is a little more settled they do not want her to have visitors.
The doctor did put her on something to calm her nerves. I am not sure if this is making a difference but overall she is doing much better than I thought.
My mother believes that she is in assisted living for physical rehab (she fell right before she moved there - nothing broken - she was fine but stiff and a little sore). She still believes that she will be getting out. She is doing fine there but says she hates it even though the nurses see her laughing and talking with her new friends, going to meals and even attending a few activities. The main thing is that she is safe.
There is no reason for your MIL to ever know that she will never be going home again. She needs to be safe and her home is no longer safe for her.
I'm sorry your are going thru this - I'm sorry we all are.
I took the advice I read here and we didn't tell Mom. She went out for breakfast and her caregiver brought her to MC. She has been there a month and thinks she is going home soon, but she thinks she has just gotten there. She is very aware of things, very funny and outgoing but couldn't be left alone at all anymore.
She is getting PT and OT 7x a week and is walking so much better!
She is loving the activity and socialization. Her anxiety and confusion have decreased greatly....the small room and routine are so good for her. She was in her very large home with caregivers who loved her dearly there 16 hours a day. But she was lonely and she was worried about what to do with her big house. Often she wouldn't know where she was.
I read that we need to make decisions based on her worst day, not her best. If there was a fire, she wouldn't have known what to do. If she fell, she forgot to push her emergency button. It was such a hard decision but I can honestly say she is thriving in MC. We just tell her we are taking it one day at time (true) and that we wanted her to get stronger so she didn't fall and break a hip. (true).