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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
11 months nov15!!!!
Hello Dear Pauline, I am so glad you decided to drop in and say hello. It would be just fine if you wanted to stop and say "Hello" on the Spousal Forum whenever you are up to it..
Once part of this expanded electronic family; always part of us and we like to keep in touch.
I am sorry for the heartaches and how much you miss your beloved. It is just such an awful thing to have to bear. Though Sard will always be deeply missed, I hope that solace and peace will soon feel more evident.
With a soft hug from me to you,
I also have been away for some time. My DH passed in April and I am dreading the next two months. I live in Ohio so lots of snow, cold temps and am not looking forward to talking to the four walls.
I am not sure how I am going to get through the Holidays....I wish they were over. My husband and I did not have children, just us, enjoyed each others company so much....I try to keep busy, hobbies, volunteering, Church, but some days I feel I am holding on by my fingernails trying to keep it together.
Have read books on Grief, it is indicated you do not work through grief, but grief must work through you. So on really bad days, I tell myself the grief is at work today moving through my body and mind....sometimes it helps, sometimes not.
I know my husband is at Peace, I am glad he no longer suffers, I don't feel guilty about anything because I feel I did everything humanly possible for him...BUT I miss him terribly and being alone is so darn hard.
Please don't give up, we must keep going, putting one foot in front of the other...I know that is what my Ed would have wanted me to do.
Hugs to you....
Dear Pauline, I also think you should post on the Spousal forum as Jo C suggested. I'm sure everyone there wants to know how you are doing.
I lost my husband to Alz on May 7th, 2013. So it has been almost a year and a half ago. I still miss him so much and go to the cemetery every Sunday as I feel close to him there.
My children all live out of town so I'm alone here in San Antonio with just my two cats to keep me company. I keep busy, reading, working in the yard, doing puzzles and also am an amateur photographer.
The approaching holidays fill me with dread, all the cheerfulness that the season is suppose to bring makes me so sad as my sweetheart is not here to share that with me.
I still cry but not as much as the first year. As the song goes "There is always something there to remind me."And there are lots of things to remind me of my dear husband which starts the grief anew. So I know what you are going through.
The nights are the hardest but I pray before I go to bed and the good Lord sends his peace and I am able to sleep with my cats at my feet.
Take care my dear, we'll make it one day at a time. HappyBee
I believe, too, Pauline!
I am happy to hear that you are smiling more and hope you continue to feel more joy. Take care!