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The good days
Awww...I love hearing about stuff like that. Thank you so much for posting it. I hope I remain pretty happy like that...and a joy for my daughter like your mom is for you.
Bless you for sharing this.
It is so strange on how this disease
is. It is so nice to know there may be good times. I hope you record those moments.
Oh fun. I love to hear this stuff, please keep it coming.
So often with the doom and gloom, it can leave me feeling very scared for my future...and stories like these feel me with warmth and hope and joy and love and good feelings about my future. And about life with Alz.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I'm having a really interesting day with mom. Dad is gone for most of the day taking care of some business. So it's just mom and I. Right now I'm playing her some Gaither music while she naps.(and I check on her about every 2 minutes. If she wakes up and can't find anyone, that's when she gets curious and might start into the idea of going some place. Reminds me of something... Oh yeah, when my kids were small, you turn your head in a shopping center and they're gone.... behind the next aisle.
So rest of the day's plans- pizza and corn on the cob for lunch. After lunch, I'm gonna request a piano performance. It's been a month since we did this; my fingers are crossed that she can still do it. Then other things we may do; read her something, out of the bible or magazine or old books in the bookshelf. Maybe break out the photo albums. Maybe go outdoors to enjoy this beautiful day. Maybe watch some TV, although we did this for awhile this morning. Mom seemed to enjoy the game show channel. We watched the $25,000 Pyramid, Press Your Luck and Card Sharks. The 25k Pyramid used to be one of her favorites. It did not ring a bell, but she enjoyed it and I believe it was somewhat a mental exercise for her. It still hurts a little when she doesn't recognize old favorites, but that's life with dementia.
The baby's first interest in TV was Wheel of Fortune with my mom. I think that is because the way the hosts talk to you so excitedly.
Repaired relationship with my mom too. I was never my mom's favorite child, but I was the only one who would help her. While she is glad to be in her home, she never seemed glad I was here. But slowly over the last few years, we have become close. The last time she went to the ER, she reached out and held my hand. Killed my arm for all the hours this went on, but I wouldn't have had it any other way. Now that we have taken over all her bills...now she says thank you and thinks I am so nice. If I had known that was the ticket, we would have taken them on years ago.
My mom is super sweet overall. I love spending this time with her. Occassionally, I get a little envious of people who get to take vacations...but given the choice, I wouldn't be anywhere else but right by my mom's side.
Greg49, thanks so much for starting this thread! It is good ( and beneficial) to bring up the good days or even just those fleeting moments which are happy ones. I believe these are gifts to treasure .
Even though my mother is bedbound and has been for the past 14 months, we still manage to have REALLY good moments (even multiple moments in the course of a day) or whole days where we laugh and share warm companionship. So glad I will be able to have these wonderful, warm memories to offset the difficult ones when my mom is no longer physically with us.
My mother is also someone who used to be a worrier and let it all go as she came down with dementia. She has become a different person in some ways and I have gotten to have a whole new relationship with her that has been a great blessing. I am thankful for that. And I would agree that for her she has had some very happy times and years even during the dementia. And even right now in the memory care and with late stage problems she is still smiling and enjoying small pleasures.
Here is a little nice: my sister called me today and said last night at dinnertime everyone was agitated in the memory unit and one lady was fiddling with her skin and the other lady was telling her to stop it and they were all getting in a snit. And the staff put on the CD that I made for them that leads off with "Forever in blue Jeans" by Neil Diamond and then goes on into the bluegrass and they all started dancing (some chair dancing) and everyone calmed down and then they ate their dinner. I am pleased my CD has turned into the picker upper remedy of choice! And it sounds like it regularly induces dancing!
Am wiping tears right along with you! That is so beautiful!!!
My mom plays piano every day as part of her routine, she cannot play like she used to, but likes to do it to keep her mind going. We had to get her a rolling walker, so it would have a high enough seat and arms to help her get back up. It was a joy to discover that this is what had kept her from playing for years (not being able to get back up off the bench).
I love this thread...thanks everyone for the beautiful stories. It makes me much more hopeful for my future. *wipes tear*