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Newly diagnosed father - daughter grieving
The only way you will get through this is by thinking "one day at a time." When you get up each morning, decide to find happiness no matter what. There will still be many, many opportunities for hugs, smiles, laughter, and love as you interact with your father. Just don't allow yourself to ruin "this day" with worries about what might happen tomorrow. Look for the small blessings and pleasures along the way. I said a prayer for you, your father, and your family. Peace always Veronica
You will get through this the same as everyone else, one step at a time, one day at a time. I think it is important to realize that this is an unwanted change and most people struggle with changes and they hate unwanted change and that is a big part of it, but you have NO CHOICE in this matter but to accept that this change is going to happen, no matter what. It just is what it is.
If it is helpful, speak to a psychologist or counselor or your clergy. There are also support groups for family of Alz patients everywhere, you might join one.
I am also feeling all the emotions of having my mother recently diagnosed w/ alz. I am in a sad mood as well. I knew the diagnosis would mean changes for both of us....but think there is a grieving process that happens & is normal. I am looking into support groups..( I am alone...no siblings.) Feeling isolated from "normal" life. I am glad this is here for us to speak & have a safe place to be honest. I am also future tripping which I know isn't healthy...but human nature. I called the 24/7 hotline last night & talked to an amazing counselor.So grateful for all this site has to offer...what a blessing. Take care & know we are all feeling the same things. We will survive. God bless.
I would like to encourage you by letting you know that one day you will look up and realize this is your new normal and you are "getting through it". You will not only be getting through it, you will be making your father's days better by being in them. Instead of saying "how will I get through this", you will be saying, "I am actually getting through this". It is so overwhelming, sad, and scary, but because you love your dad so much you will be able to muster up strength to return to him time after time with a smile on your face and love in your heart. Believe me, it's a ridiculously tough journey, and totally not one we signed up for. But it has fallen on our heads so we must go. For love of the ones who loved us first we choose to fight their fight. We are their advocates as they were once ours. YOU CAN DO THIS. I can do this. We will not give up, we will not stop. Just as they wouldn't stop if the situation were turned. I can tell you love him very much. He is blessed to have you. I see many who have no one. No help, no advocate, no one loving on them day after day. You can and something tells me you will. My prayers and hope are with you and your family as you muddle through the next days, months, and hopefully years of loving on your father who is the same guy as he has always been. He just needs you now more than you need him.
-Pj Oleham, Still Caring for Momma
It is always different when the diagnosis affects someone you love. There is no right way or wrong way to handle this. You must be strong though, because this disease has many twists and turns. Read all you can about this disease. Watch Teepa Snow on you-tube, so you can learn how to communicate with him. He is not lost to you yet and be there for him, as much as you can. This isn't easy for him either. One day at a time is the best way. Seek out a support group that deals with this disease. You will get through this.