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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
A FATHER MOURNS HIS DAUGHTER
April 11, 2018
by Joel Jongkind
the morning of the 27th of January, I woke up early, and I was teary-eyed. I
had been dreaming about the birth of our first child, stillborn on January
29th, 1957. I think about her quite often, and certainly around that time of
the year. I think about how different it would have been if we had raised four
children instead of three. I think about our living children having another
sister, and their children having another aunt. Things would have been so
different. At times, it makes me sad, and obviously, even after all these many
years, it is still on my mind. I was filled with a feeling of sorrow and
sadness that morning.
On the 28th, I was to lead a church service in a small town where I go at least
once a month. Their service is at 11:15 a.m., so we have lots of time to
prepare for the trip to that place. Early that morning at about 7:00 a.m., one
of our grandsons called up to tell us that his wife had given birth to their
first child, a little girl, in the hospital in Owen Sound. As the hospital was practically
on the way to my preaching engagement, and as we had lots of time, we decided
to stop by and have a look at the little girl. As soon as I saw her, my anxiety
about the 29th was pushed into the background of my very being, and my sadness
was turned to joy. Mind you, the little girl can never replace the one that we
lost — our daughters and granddaughters did not either — but seeing that little
child, mere hours after she was born, was good for both of us.
At the time of the birth of our little girl, I did not know what passage to
read. I let the Bible fall open where it might, and there was the passage which
has become a favourite, and the verse that I quote quite often:Psalm 46:1 – God is our refuge
and strength, a very present help in trouble. (NKJV)
Later, after we had seen the new little baby, my wife commented on the fact
that we had not experienced anything but sadness when our first child was born.
She never did see her, and I only saw her in her little casket. We talked about
how much we had missed, and we were sad.
But we experienced great joy on that morning in the hospital and later at
church. We know that we have been blessed indeed. The following verse came to
mind, which we can all apply in such situations:Psalm 42:11 – Why are you cast
down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; For I shall
yet praise Him, the help of my countenance and my God. (NKJV)Prayer: Our Father in heaven, we
pray for all those who sorrow the loss of a child. We know through faith that
You are with us and that You do comfort us, even during times when we are
distraught about events of the past. We thank You, in Jesus' name. Amen.