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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
What hurls you back? When you are over it. When you know you are healed, and living life again.
Is it seeing someone else with the year of birth of your parent? Is it a same weather day as the day they died?
What's your deja vu?
I wish they didn't happen.
When I see a veteran. Especially a Korean War vet and or hat.
I was at the store the other day next in line to check out, and then walked an older gentleman with the exact same neck brace that my dad wore for 2 1/2 years. I blinked, looked away, looked back, and he was still there. Not really sure why, except all those memories of when he broke his neck came flooding back.
It was all I could do not to just leave the store right then and there. A lot of people may not understand it, and that’s OK. They don’t have to. It’s a very personal thing what can trigger and someone.
Then I thought, OK, well at least that first is over with, trying to make light of it. Yes, birthdays or anniversary dates those can do it also.
Pop tarts, Twinkies, prayers and hugs to all-
Always be VK
What hurls you back?
For me it’s seeing couples together having fun, or just
holding hands. Seeing her favorite cookies, (Oreo's) when I am shopping. Buying
my own clothes. She always did that for me. Thunder storms at night, and lying
in bed listening to the rain. Frozen pancakes she loved them. And sometimes just
a smell can bring back memories.
Had to go to the ER with my child this weekend too, all is well, but sitting there in a different hospital still evoked the many trips made from AL.
I know I have strawberry poptarts in my cupboard, but at this metabolic stage of my life I will have to settle for sniffing them, VK. Halotop ice cream, here I come.
For my mom, rose gardens.
For my Dad, cowboys riding a horse.
Every darn* time.
What's your deja vu? I wish they didn't happen.
It's only been a month so EVERYTHING is my deja vu. I don't mind as I try to work though this. Why do you wish they didn't happen? Isn't it nice to remember?
The back of a older man with his suspenders criss-crossed.
A license plate number that is similar to what Dad had..