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Hurled back
King Boo
Posted: Wednesday, June 6, 2018 2:57 PM
Joined: 1/9/2012
Posts: 2650

What hurls you back?  When you are over it.  When you know you are healed, and living life again.

Is it seeing someone else with the year of birth of your parent?        Is it a same weather day as the day they died?

What's your deja vu?

I wish they didn't happen. 

Posted: Wednesday, June 6, 2018 3:31 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 14754

touching a starched and pressed dress shirt
Veterans kid
Posted: Wednesday, June 6, 2018 7:00 PM
Joined: 10/17/2014
Posts: 1106

When I see a veteran. Especially a Korean War vet and or hat.

 I was at the store the other day next in line to check out, and then walked an older gentleman with the exact same neck brace that my dad wore for 2 1/2 years. I blinked, looked away, looked back, and he was still there. Not really sure why, except all those memories of when he broke his neck came flooding back.

 It was all I could do not to just leave the store right then and there. A lot of people may not understand it, and that’s OK. They don’t have to. It’s a very personal thing what can trigger and someone. 

Then I thought, OK, well at least that first is over with, trying to make light of it. Yes, birthdays or anniversary dates those can do it also.

 Pop tarts, Twinkies, prayers and hugs to all-


Always be VK 

Posted: Wednesday, June 6, 2018 8:01 PM
Joined: 5/21/2016
Posts: 1594

The mail that still arrives with his name.
Posted: Wednesday, June 6, 2018 8:02 PM
Joined: 5/21/2016
Posts: 1594

As though he could open it.
Posted: Wednesday, June 6, 2018 10:53 PM
Joined: 8/15/2017
Posts: 188

Seeing a man dressed in all denim, that's all my Robert wore. I dressed him in it for his burial.
Last Dance
Posted: Wednesday, June 6, 2018 11:34 PM
Joined: 5/2/2013
Posts: 207

What hurls you back?

For me it’s seeing couples together having fun, or just holding hands. Seeing her favorite cookies, (Oreo's) when I am shopping. Buying my own clothes. She always did that for me. Thunder storms at night, and lying in bed listening to the rain. Frozen pancakes she loved them. And sometimes just a smell can bring back memories.

George K
Posted: Thursday, June 7, 2018 5:45 AM
Joined: 12/16/2011
Posts: 2528

When I see a couple walking hand-in-hand; when I see another woman with the same hair style and color; when lilacs bloom; when the sun shines, when the sun doesn't shine; when I set the dinner table for one.  I guess I'm not over losing my wife yet.
King Boo
Posted: Thursday, June 7, 2018 7:13 AM
Joined: 1/9/2012
Posts: 2650

Thanks for sharing all.  We'll never all get over it, I guess, but I didn't know the healing could split open again so sharply.  
I saw several people this week with my parents month and year of birth, one even with the exact birthday.  It started as a pity party "not fair!" and kind of evolved from there.

Had to go to the ER with my child this weekend too, all is well, but sitting there in a different hospital still evoked the many trips made from AL.

I know I have strawberry poptarts in my cupboard, but at this metabolic stage of my life I will have to settle for sniffing them, VK.  Halotop ice cream, here I come.

Posted: Wednesday, June 13, 2018 1:40 PM
Joined: 3/6/2017
Posts: 759

The smell of Old Spice.

Posted: Wednesday, June 13, 2018 1:42 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 14754

Bay Rum
Posted: Friday, June 15, 2018 3:07 PM
Joined: 12/23/2016
Posts: 56

For my mom, rose gardens.

For my Dad, cowboys riding a horse.

Every darn* time.

Posted: Saturday, June 16, 2018 8:40 AM
Joined: 1/17/2016
Posts: 655

What's your deja vu?  I wish they didn't happen. 

It's only been a month so EVERYTHING is my deja vu.  I don't mind as I try to work though this.  Why do you wish they didn't happen?  Isn't it nice to remember?


Posted: Thursday, June 21, 2018 1:54 PM
Joined: 8/3/2017
Posts: 132

The back of a older man with his suspenders criss-crossed.  

A license plate number that is similar to what Dad had..  



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