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Cancelling social commitments
FredBelanger
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2018 1:35 PM
Joined: 6/3/2018
Posts: 2


I've been diagnosed with MCI for a couple of years now. I'm staying pretty static as far as progression goes but lately I have a a propensity to back off from commitments I've made to others.

An example:
I volunteer at a local hospital to be greeter at the main entrance. A couple of times now I just didn't show up....like today. I feel very guilty, and rightfully so. I'll later call and apologize. My coordinator there is aware of my MCI and is very understanding but I still feel guilty.

To get to the point, I wonder if this behavior is connected at all to MCI or am I just looking for a scapegoat.

Thanks for reading.

Fred Belanger


Iris L.
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2018 3:52 PM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 15562


Welcome, Fred.  I feel overwhelmed at times by committments, but usually I am able to attend.  I try to avoid committments that make too many demands.  I think I would like to be a greeter at a hospital.  Are you getting enough sleep?  


Iris L.


Mimi S.
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2018 5:19 PM
Joined: 11/29/2011
Posts: 6768


Hi Fred,

Welcome to our group.  We're so glad you found us.

Hopefully you have the type of MCI that does not progress, or does so very slowly.

Socialization, such as you get as a greeter, is important.  Only you can decide what is too uch.  Do you need to cut down on how often you sign up for?

I don't know you but would hope you do show up for what you signed up for. or at least, try calling before you are due, so they know you won't be there.


FredBelanger
Posted: Wednesday, October 24, 2018 5:50 PM
Joined: 6/3/2018
Posts: 2


Thanks for the responses.

 Actually I did call the volunteer coordinator and apologized. We had a good conversation and it resulted in my taking a respite for a week or two. There are issues at home to get resolved first. She told me that there are other volunteer positions that she thinks would be more to my liking. I greatly appreciate her patience and understanding.

Onward and Upward!


III%
Posted: Tuesday, January 1, 2019 7:09 PM
Joined: 3/3/2017
Posts: 2


Hi, my name is Julie. I have experienced exactly what your speaking of. I’ve been unable to follow through on commitments for atleast a year now and know exactly the feeling of guilt. I finally just accepted, its better if I Try to avoid commitments if possible for this reason. I can’t say it’s improved, instead I just learned to accept it and work around.
Mimi S.
Posted: Wednesday, January 2, 2019 11:21 AM
Joined: 11/29/2011
Posts: 6768


Hi III,

Perhaps you can be more selective in your social commitments?  Being socially active is one of the components of what several of us PWD call Best Practices. It is important that we intefact with other folks on a daily basis. This lack in my own life, plus  my fraility led to my current residence in an ALF. 


Juniper1
Posted: Saturday, January 5, 2019 11:31 AM
Joined: 12/4/2018
Posts: 1


Mimi S. wrote:

Hi III,

Perhaps you can be more selective in your social commitments?  Being socially active is one of the components of what several of us PWD call Best Practices. It is important that we intefact with other folks on a daily basis. This lack in my own life, plus  my fraility led to my current residence in an ALF. 



Gr8hnd
Posted: Wednesday, January 9, 2019 4:03 PM
Joined: 9/16/2015
Posts: 3


If it’s okay for a caregiver/spouse to comment, my husband had MCI for a number of years. He did exactly what the poster is doing. He said he feared being “found out” and judged by others who once knew him as “smart.”  I understood his trepidation, as I’ve thought those with MCI or AD are often prejudged without giving them any opportunities beforehand. 

Our local chapter offers a social group for those with earlier stage AD or MCI and a spouse or friend where everyone feels safe to be themselves.  Maybe your chapter has something along those lines where you can do some trial runs.  Best of luck.  

 


 
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