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Just a vent..
Eric, I get it.
I used to be so close to my sister, but sadly, this caregiving road has really fractured our relationship. I really thought that my sister and I had the same goals and values; but this caregiving journey has shown that not to be the case. Now I am just pleasantly surprised when my sister pulls through for any little bit of help because I know that generally I can't count on her. Better than nothing, I have decided, but disappointing none-the-less. Funny thing is that she has no clue how my views on our relationship have been damaged. I just go through the motions with her now, exchanging pleasantries, etc., while inside I am seething.
Haha! Okay, Eric L, I'm gonna add my vent too... that sister of mine is so darn* rude sometimes. She shows up here already acting like she's pissed off at me, doesn't say "Hi", barely responds when I greet her, and ignores me both verbally and with eye contact for a day or two. Happens ALL. THE. TIME.
I wait it out. Eventually she wanders downstairs for a glass of wine after Mom goes to bed, but some times I just wanna shake her and scream "It's not my fault Mom has dementia and you're here! So stop being pissed at me!"
But, we're lucky we've got siblings shouldering the burden so I keep my mouth shut. Although some times... I really wanna pop her one!
Hahah - i know it's not the grievance olympics but I do find myself stuck on "A brother in law who helps? "
LOL. This disease and caregiving just stresses everyone out. I find myself not behaving quite like myself sometimes and (over)reacting to things that used to roll off my back. I try to remind myself, everyone is just doing their best. Sometimes their best seems like not enough (!) but I'm sure mine does too sometimes.
Stress makes us all a little crazy.