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Mom mot adjusting to memory care. Any hope?
The hard thing is everyone is different - and I mean families, residents, facilities and staff.
I moved my parent cross-country to MC from her home. She was at the high end of functioning with an unusual memory profile (little longterm memory, impaired speech, some day to day memory, very analytical). It took almost a year and some anxiety medication to get her to adjust as she was an aggressive exit seeker. I also "had" to take her out to lunch and for outings 2-3 x a week. After three years, a decline on her part and some unfortunate adventures at her facility, I moved her to a different facility where even though she is now in the middle of the residents in terms of functioning she has made firm friends and has happy friendly relations with staff and others (and is no longer much interested in outings). Also at the "new place" there is less shopping and visiting in each other's rooms and things seem to wander less which makes for a happier resident, at least in our family.
So talk to staff and management to see if there are any ways to help; give it time; and look around. Other things that helped were a door that could be "shut" and "locked" -- staff could open it at any time and it always opened from the inside.
Two months is still very "early" in the adjustment period.
Have you gone to the MC and observed mom without being seen? It's quite possible she has good interactions with staff/residents, and saves her complaints for you (on some level hoping you'll take her home).