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The (not) fun with paid caregivers..
Dealing with bad or sub-par caregivers is the worst. I have a young man who lives in and provides respite care in lieu of rent but I'm seriously considering kicking him to the curb because he doesn't answer texts or e-mails. A schedule change I sent him yesterday went unanswsered for 18 hours and he said, "I can't, I have some things to take care of."
I'm really peeved. I mean angry. On the other hand, if I kick him to the curb I'll have no respite care for myself and I'll be back in the loony bin within two weeks. I just don't know what to do here.
The second thing I did when I engaged a HHA (after I locked up the valuables and checkbooks) was to get wifi security cameras for the house: kitchen, living room and moms bedroom. Comes with an app so I could watch and listen at work.
Worth. Every. Penny.
Saw lots of questionable and inappropriate behavior with the first aide, she lasted about 7 days and then I called the agency and kicked her to the curb.
Also, my GCM does monthly in-home visits, I was surprised when you wrote she hadn’t seen your MIL in a year
I think you need more clarification about the bad mouthing - which really doesn't sound like badmouthing to me.
A good caregiver can get very invested in a client too - they may not have the expertise or knowledge to know everything - so if the caregiver believes Mom should get more exercise, the question I would have is is she being safe with Mom?
My caregivers were outright disapproving when my LO went onto hospice - they didn't grumble to Dad, but I heard some - and talked about it with them.
Just make sure it was really badmouthing and not a misunderstanding. The GCM may be spot on, or she may be jumping to a quick conclusion. Proceed and investigate.
OK, sounds like a good call! You definitely need good skills and compassion moving ahead so if the caregiver doesn't have them, there's a better option out there!
An outright lie tilts this whole banana in a different direction - good call!