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It's not about pancakes
Here is a maybe. You can thoroughly mix the dry ingredients in her recipe and store in the frig. Just add the milk, eggs and butter when you make the pancakes. I would print out the amount of dry and the the amount of the wets to add.
"I so love your pancakes. How about seeing if there is a way to simplify the process."
That does sound sad, and it’s sooo different from my situation it’s hard to imagine.
My DH would never say or acknowledge he could not do or remember something. He just....did not do them, (or said yes whether he understood or not) which meant it took a long time to see it was not just his choice.
It also created some serious problems, some I’m still dealing with. Other things were more temporary—like the mess left behind when he’d start something, not remember, and just walk away. (Now he does not do much of anything).
The only time he admitted it was regarding driving, and when he got lost going somewhere nearby he’d been going daily for 30 years.
It would be sad to hear that, but at least you are there to help and comfort. I so much wish I’d realized what was going on, earlier.
I went through this drill so often I can hardly count .
First she could do it.
Then she could do it with help
Then I had to do it while she watched
Then she lost interest in doing it
Then she no longer understood what it was.
Cameras, computers, cellphones, Brassieres Earrings
Sic transit gloria Mundi
Good thought, but I really think she'll be able to make them tomorrow if she tries. Maybe.
This is a frustration for us also... a repetitive loss. I mean if Jim could just not do something. Fine, we deal with it, recognize it as a loss, accept it and move on.
But with this can do, then can't, then can ...the same loss keeps repeating...after five or six times of him being unable to do something I don't feel the loss of it...but the first 3-4 are rough to accept sometimes.
I have noticed once he becomes sporadic in his ability to do something it eventually becomes a constant.
OR, "I so love your pancakes. How about seeing if I can make them as good as you do."