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mark47
Posted: Wednesday, March 13, 2019 5:35 PM
Joined: 7/3/2013
Posts: 11


Has anyone heard of a general rule that we should not look a dementia patient in the eye.

I can see there may be times for diverting our eyes and times we should look them in the eye.  I have not heard of a reason we should never look them in the eye.  Let me know if there is something I have missed.


romiha
Posted: Wednesday, March 13, 2019 6:22 PM
Joined: 12/21/2014
Posts: 486


I've not heard that one.  I look my mom in the eyes all the time!
i2i
Posted: Wednesday, March 13, 2019 6:45 PM
Joined: 8/12/2017
Posts: 163


Huh? Really?
i2i
Posted: Wednesday, March 13, 2019 6:46 PM
Joined: 8/12/2017
Posts: 163


Huh? Really?
Vik
Posted: Wednesday, March 13, 2019 6:50 PM
Joined: 2/26/2019
Posts: 172


I think it depends on what the person preferred pre-dementia!  Some people feel uncomfortable when people look them in the eye when communicating. Others, like myself, prefer to hav people look directly at me while communicating. It helps me to feel like the person is more interested in me.  So far in my dementia progession, i still like people looking me in the eye. Now, if i was having delusions or hallucinations, that mite be another story...

 


EN85
Posted: Thursday, March 14, 2019 9:47 AM
Joined: 1/10/2019
Posts: 64


I haven't heard of that. The only time I don't give my mommy eye contact us when I'm telling a "fiblet" or when I'm feeling heartbroken about the current situation and that's usually when I'm fibbing.
John1965
Posted: Thursday, March 14, 2019 10:38 AM
Joined: 8/19/2016
Posts: 282


Not sure about dementia, but I know that "look me in the eye while I'm talking to you!" can be very culturally insensitive. In some cultures it is inappropriate for children and/or those of "lower social rank" to look an adult/"superior" in the eye. Sadly in this country it has some roots in slavery and Jim Crow laws (e.g. "Reckless Eyeballing.")
 
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