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Feeling trapped and mini meltdowns
No need for explanation, we all are feeling it. And if my lovely husband tells me it could be worse one more time, I will need someone to give me an alibi!!
That is all
I hate it when people say..."oh, you are going to miss it when she doesn't do "x" (insert whatever difficult behavior my dmil is currently doing). To me that is like saying to a kidnap victum that they are going to miss their kidnapper! No, no I will not miss "x" I already miss my dmil the way she was 10 years ago!
..., I will need someone to give me an alibi!!...
It's actually a relief to read your post. I had a meltdown last weekend, and then took some space for myself, and yesterday morning at 9 am my mother (who has early stages of dementia) started texting me at 9 am saying she needed a recipe from me . . . . sigh.
And yeah, "it" could be worse, but this is pretty tough.
Fully understand. I attended a caregivers meeting last week and came away with a feeling of relief and terror. Relief because my mom is obviously not as far along in dementia as some of the other caregivers loved ones, and terror cause she's not as far along as some others. If I hear the phrase "daughter of the year" or "God bless you for doing this." I might scream. Great, thanks for giving me pity but not help!
wow. you posted this on Monday.Monday morning, I woke up NOT wanting to do this anymore. I was in a serious "funk." Bad mood all the way around the entire day. Tuesday woke up not in that same level of "funk" but still.I wonder what was in the water over the weekend?
Am I the only one who’s SMDH at being told “just remember all the good times you had.”
Yes, I do, quite often. We’d be having them right now, except for this disease. When dealing with a person who’s mobile but has virtually no thought process, living in the past doesn’t work so well.
“It could be worse” is another one. That’s basically a truism for just about anything. As jfroc said, that doesn’t mean what’s happening now is OK.
Must be the time of year, or something. At least my therapist does not say “it could be worse.”
But am I wrong for being the teeniest bit aggravated when he seemed to take great pride in announcing “you feel trapped” like a big breakthrough?