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Toilet paper woes
Mom is an amazing 84 yr old late onset. Problem right now is toilet and need for paper. She wants to keep wiping and shoving paper in her pamp and then MUCH of into toilet, to the point of flooding.
I now limit paper. This is not 2 or 3 squares, I place 3 or 4 bundles with 4-6 squares in each bundle.
Sometimes she's okay with it, sometimes she's outspoken upset about it and then sometimes when the toilet is flooding I see napkins from dinner table or kitchen in pot. : ( :O YIKES
I can't keep the flooding up. I can't afford the plumbing. I do not want to clean this anymore. I do not want her to be angry at me and stressed over this but I JUST cannot give her the whole role anymore.
ANY IDEAS? Sigh.
It sounds like she's not able to manage toileting on her own or even to have access to the toilet alone. She certainly wouldn't be doing this if she had the ability to stop. I'd ensure that she never goes to the restroom alone and that the only paper she gets is provided directly to her by you or whoever is supervising her bathroom trips. In fact, there's really no reason that she should have access to the bathroom without being supervised.
And, to keep her hands busy, you might check out some fidget boards. They are available at some of the online stores for disabled/dementia care needs.
Oh my, this has become a problem in our home too. My DH overflows the commode weekly. I am at a loss. I've tried being vigilant but, its not always easy. Today I saw him throw q-tips into the toilet and flush. It has become a challenge for sure.
I will try the thinner paper and limited supply.
My mom is putting her toilet paper everywhere except the toilet! In her drawers, on her dresser tops, the counter... sigh.
I think there is plenty of us here with the same problems. Just got DW to bed. She was pulling TP of the roll and making big piles. It's what our cat did a couple of times. Yep, some ended in the depends. And when she did wipe, the used stuff goes other places except the toilet.
Where else can a bunch of "strangers"go and tell these events to others. Thanks for this forum and all who share their stories to us.
I think I see light at the end of a tunnel, hope it's not the train.
DW goes into MC tomorrow. Spend the day with friends getting her room all ready for her. Following the MC checklist, there is a lot of stuff being moved in. I just hope the move goes good for her.
When I realize this the last night she will spend in our home of 40 years, that sure wets the eyes.
But trying to stay as positive as one can with our plight, the TP problem is now in their court.
My mom uses toilet paper for everything her nose,her bathroom,her meals every time she she needs to wash her hands . She refuses to use paper towels or napkins only toilet paper
A friend of mine had his mother living with him and his wife, with caregivers coming into the home. Both husband and wife worked full time. He said that his mother developed a problem with putting too much TP into the toilet, so he began simply turning off the water to the toilet during the day. Then, when he was home, he would take care of what was in there - don't ask me how; he didn't say, and I didn't ask - so no flooding.
My parents' next door neighbor sold his home after he retired, and the home was turned into a an assisted living group home. After a while my mother (my father had died by this time) began having plumbing problems. Raw sewage was backing into her basement. The water people discovered some sort of breach in the pipes under the property, and a clog of newspapers. They probably had gotten into a storm sewer somewhere and drifted down how many miles till they collected under my parents' yard. But my mother was convinced that the people with dementia next door must have been using newspapers instead of TP, and flushing them down the toilets. Of course, I am sure that that is not what was happening.
so he began simply turning off the water to the toilet during the day. Then, when he was home, he would take care of what was in there - don't ask me how; he didn't say, and I didn't ask - so no flooding.
That's an easy solution. There should be a shutoff valve on the water supply line. It (the valve) will be located near the floor. Just turn it off, then back on when needed. When you turn it off, there should be enough water in the tank for another flush before it won't flush again.
Jillgap re the over-flooding of Toilet meh.. There was someone who posted not too long ago regarding her mother passing and no longer feeling vigilant. THis is the new me, uber vigilant but mom still mobile. I'm so happy she is and yet it's frightening.
Zauberflote, I'm looking into the toilet lock but might just turn the water off..
CDolan @ toilet lock
Abuela, that paper doesnt just stay in bathroom, it's in the bedroom under the pillows, in her bed, in drawers, and lol, someone said in her walker pocket, there too! What is it with paper??
DW743 You are absolutely right I love this forum for that reason who else would understand?? Bless You and your LO, I hope the transition is good. xx
Golondrina, I have a funny strange memory or old ppl fam friends with a roll of TP at table hhhaa. ^^
Fischie7 This is why I love the forum, some things are new and some are tried. TY I did the signs, they worked for a while then mom said Those are for ppl who come to visit, not me lol ..BUt I had them up for a good while!
Carolyn613, Next step is water shut off at her bathroom.
Thank you to all who replied. Every ones journey is different and sometimes so alike. I just wanted some feedback. Some help. Sometimes I feel so out of it and like no one else is even imagining what is going on and asking for help is key, what have you done, what did you do, what next. That's why this forum works!
Thank you ! xxxxxx0000 D