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Adult Day Care(6)
We will be taking my mother-in-law to adult day care soon to give my father-in-law a few hours/days of time to himself. He is her full time care giver and he is really beginning to feel the strain. We do what we can, but because he is there 24/7, the bulk of it all falls on him.
I am looking for some tried and true suggestions or tidbits to help her with a smooth transition to the day facility. Should we tell her a they need some help at the facility and we volunteered her? What suggestions do you have?
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Hey Betsy, we have been utilizing inter-generational day care centers for a couple of years now and it's been a great addition to our care giving strategy.
If you haven't already sussed out the workers at the day care center, do so. They will be experts on getting your MIL engaged quickly and will have good suggestions for you as first timers. They are always ready with a hug and a cup of cocoa to pull Mom into the center and get her attention so I can head out. On days that our mom is resisting going in, or being left at her daycare, we hang out with her and the other participants for 5 or 10 minutes until it's a discreet time to leave without causing her stress.
We've utilized three different day respite options, and each had their particular strengths, all had "everyday angels" manning them, and one became a final standout so now we go there exclusively five days a week.
I hope it's a good solution for your family and MIL too. Good luck to you all.