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I thought I was done
His Daughter
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 1:42 AM
Joined: 6/25/2014
Posts: 2277

Hello everyone,

    I thought I was done with brain damage when I buried my father.  But life had other plans in store for His Daughter.  

   On Saturday May 4th, my 30 year old son was outside working on his yard, and in a split second he went down.  A neighbor who was also a nurse was out walking her dog saw it happen. She ran to my son and started CPR.  The ambulance was called and he was rushed to the closest ER.  When I got to the ER they were working on my son.  He had no pulse, heartbeat or blood pressure.  I went to his side and talked calmly in his ear telling him everything that was happening.  Those doctors never quit, they worked on Luke for an hour.  Through out it all, in my mind, I privately said if they can't bring him back whole, it would be better off if they simply allowed him to die.  I knew that his heart was the least of our problems.   

   We've had a very tough 5 days.  24 hours of cooling to help protect his brain, and another 16 hours to re warm his body.  Taking him off the paralyzing agent and sedative, hoping all the while he'd wake up and come around.  

   Further testing, of every type available, is showing my son has brain damage throughout his brain.  He's got a few things going for him, he's young, and had no preexisting conditions.  And we all know how unpredictable brain injury can be.  Miracles do happen.  

   At this time, my family is in need of your prayers.  

His Daughter

........and now...........His Mother  

Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 4:35 AM
Joined: 8/12/2017
Posts: 177

His Mother - the shock and weight of this are beyond imagining.  Prayers, you've got it.  Here with you.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 5:00 AM
Joined: 8/10/2016
Posts: 1526

(((HisMom))). (((HisFamily))).   I will be praying for you and yours.  As someone who worked with these types of patients for 41 years I can tell you miracles do happen sometimes.  Know your heart is very heavy.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 6:04 AM
Joined: 4/10/2018
Posts: 61

I am a physician and have seen many cases like this over the course of my training. Reading this really brought tears to my eyes, for your young son, for you, and for the rest of your family. I am so very sorry. Very unpredictable how these things go, all we can do now is pray, and rehabilitation.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 6:32 AM
Joined: 9/5/2017
Posts: 298

My heart goes out to you. I hope for the best for you and your son.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 6:35 AM
Joined: 1/28/2019
Posts: 3

(((((((((((((((His Daughter/His Mom)))))))))))))


Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 6:39 AM
Joined: 4/3/2019
Posts: 146

Sending you prayers!!!!  30 is so young . . . ! Hugs to you.
caregiving daughter
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 6:57 AM
Joined: 11/27/2012
Posts: 2057

I'm saying prayers for your son right now
King Boo
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 7:02 AM
Joined: 1/9/2012
Posts: 3013

My heart breaks for what you are going through.

Things sound extremely serious - but you are entirely correct that youth is on his side.  Time can yield a lot of good things too - no guarantee, but it is entirely possible if he shows some improvement withing the first 6 months of this he can have a much better outcome than you would predict now.  Unlike dementia, there CAN be the potential for improvement.  

A very long time ago, working in rehab., we saw near drowning victims and head injuries that were not expected to make any progress at all, walk out on their own upon discharge.   We humans, despite technology, can only predict so much.

I hold you and your son in prayer intentions this week.

Michael Ellenbogen
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 7:32 AM
Joined: 11/30/2011
Posts: 2388

 I am so sorry to hear this. I pray for a quick recovery. 

Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 8:09 AM
Joined: 9/8/2017
Posts: 2043

I am so very sorry and will be thinking and praying for you, your son, and family.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 8:19 AM
Joined: 1/17/2016
Posts: 884

I am so sorry to hear about your son.  I have a 21 year old and cannot imagine having to go through any more illnesses dealing with the brain.  Taking care of our parents wasn't easy, but they were older and lived their life.  I hope he has a speedy recovery and that everything works out for all of you.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 8:44 AM
Joined: 5/16/2017
Posts: 392

So sad for you, your son + your family.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 8:56 AM
Joined: 2/22/2017
Posts: 78

I am so very sorry! You and your son are in my prayers.

Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 9:24 AM
Joined: 4/1/2014
Posts: 4821

Oh Gail, sorry to learn of this terrible news! I am praying for a miracle-they do happen-so may God have you and your family in His Hands and His will be done.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 9:36 AM
Joined: 11/13/2014
Posts: 2117

Oh no Gail!  I'm so sorry!! Praying right now!


Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 9:40 AM
Joined: 12/24/2016
Posts: 202

How awful. I am praying for you, your son, and your family during this most difficult time.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 10:23 AM
Joined: 7/6/2014
Posts: 1335

Hugs, just hugs. So Sorry.


Cynthia (Dahlke)
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 10:25 AM
Joined: 6/20/2016
Posts: 1924

I am so sorry, you have my prayers also.  Sometimes I wonder how much anyone is supposed to be able to bear in this life.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 10:49 AM
Joined: 9/7/2017
Posts: 794

I'm so sorry. You're a tough cookie but I know we all wish you didn't have to be.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 10:55 AM
Joined: 4/5/2013
Posts: 836

His Daughter / His Mother,

My heart aches for you.  I'm so so very sorry to read about your son.  It is hard to find the right words right now. You, your son and your family are in my prayers.



D in law
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 11:33 AM
Joined: 4/24/2017
Posts: 556

Oh no.  I am so sorry.  And to be so close to Mother's Day!  Prayers to you and your family.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 12:17 PM
Joined: 4/2/2018
Posts: 1336

So sorry for you and your family. Prayers coming your way.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 12:56 PM
Joined: 10/21/2016
Posts: 2409

This is heartbreaking.  Just awful.  The only blessing (?) is that he has a wonderful, caring, compassionate, and patient Mother.  I'm so sorry for what you are going through.



Twin Mom
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 1:55 PM
Joined: 12/9/2015
Posts: 323

I always look forward to your posts.  I am SO utterly sorry reading the trauma your family has once again faced.  I am thankful to know your son has you by his side because I know you will find the strength and resources from wherever to make the best of this devastating turn of events.  Blessings to you and your family.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 2:19 PM
Joined: 12/4/2011
Posts: 3462

GOD IS FAITHFUL!  He will answer your prayers and ours with His best.  If we love Him, obey Him, and cooperate with Him,  we will see God use our pain, our heartaches, our sufferings for His Glory, our eternal good or for the good of others. I too will pray right now.  And gentle hugs.  Please keep us updated.  Peace always, Veronica

Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 3:55 PM
Joined: 4/29/2019
Posts: 27

His Daughter/His Mother,

My heart breaks for you. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. I know there are no words to describe what you are going through. <3 I'm sending you a big hug.

-Precious Moments

Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 4:25 PM
Joined: 5/1/2013
Posts: 146

Oh my god no....

You have been an absolute rock for me and so many others on this forum.  Your care, love, empathy and most of all honesty has been invaluable.  

When your dad passed away, I privately had this sense of relief for you.  You deserved time for you.

This news is painful to hear.  

I know you are too smart to hear "it's going to be ok", but I do want to say something.  Last year, my best friend's brother had a severe brain aneurysm.  It was unique in that it's a type that primarily hits women over 50, and he's a 33 year old guy.  The chance of permanent neurological defect was high - like really high.  He was also in ICU and on life support for something like 6 days. I just saw him 2 weeks ago and by all accounts his basically 100%.   

I am thinking of you.


Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 5:52 PM
Joined: 2/1/2018
Posts: 310

I am truly sorry to read of your family’s misfortune.  I believe that miracles can and do happen. I pray, but I do not pray for miracles for my own benefit; rather I pray for the courage and strength to accept what is to happen.  For you, I will pray for a miracle.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 7:12 PM
Joined: 11/11/2017
Posts: 194

Dear Gail,

My thoughts and prayers are with your precious son, you, and your family. 


NC caregiver
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 9:49 PM
Joined: 2/7/2018
Posts: 858

I am praying for you & your son.  Sending a warm hug.  So sorry to hear you are going through this sad time.
Posted: Thursday, May 9, 2019 9:54 PM
Joined: 7/9/2017
Posts: 22

You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Your words have lifted me many times and I am lifting you and yours to heaven.
His Daughter
Posted: Friday, May 10, 2019 1:13 AM
Joined: 6/25/2014
Posts: 2277

Rest in Peace my beautiful son,  Luke

August 30, 1988 - May 9th, 2019  11:45pm

And the only thing that ever mattered was the DASH between those years.  

Posted: Friday, May 10, 2019 1:54 AM
Joined: 12/17/2018
Posts: 220

I am so very, very sorry for your loss.  I am sitting here in front of my computer screen staring and not comprehending how this can happen. I pray for your beautiful Luke and for your broken heart.
Posted: Friday, May 10, 2019 4:07 AM
Joined: 12/15/2011
Posts: 3908

Dear Gail, 

I am so shocked and so deeply saddened at the loss of your beloved son, Luke. One thing is for certain:  Luke was loved and Luke loved you and that love is eternal. There is nothing that can ever end the love you have for him nor his love for you, not even death.  Know I am here for you.  My prayers are with you in your hour of need and in all the times to come when you feel alone, know I care deeply and am with you in spirit holding your hand across the internet.     

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