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Your heaven is at the base of your parents' feet.
Today, after I returned home from dropping off the caregiver,
I found my sister conversing with Raymond, dad’s bath aide.
I think my dad was Raymond’s last client today. Raymond was sick all week, and he knows I don’t
mind if he can’t make it sometimes or if he’s late one week. No big deal.
Because I give dad his “Sunday Super Wash with the Works” special. The whole ….shebang. He kinda looks shinier after his Sunday Super
Anyway, during the conversation between him and my sister
(of course I got busy with dad while they chit chatted) Raymond asked, “Do you
girls believe in the hereafter?”
Of course I said “yeah.”
He said, “Where I’m from, we believe your heaven is at the
base of your parents’ feet. Now, what
does that mean to you?”
My sister was “clueless” kmm kmm.
I said, “I think I know what that means. It means that you hold your parents and take
care of them. We follow them, maybe,
Earlier this week the caregiver mentioned there’s a place
for me in heaven, and other folks say that too.
But, I don’t rely on my work for my father or parents to
enter heaven. The truth is….I’m not a good person many times. I can be a real @ss sometimes. You should see my driving style, and when
folks are in my way at Walmart….Like, one time this young girl was walking so
slow in front of me and in my way while she played with her cell phone, I tried to get around her (I walk really
fast) and each time shorty me tried to get around she’d step to the side blocking
When she finally realized I was trying to get around, she said “OH..I’m
I didn’t respond out
loud, but in my mind I said, “yeah right you slow f**k”
I doubt that would get me into heaven.
Anyway, I looked up the saying in the internet and found
have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him,
and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15)
Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai).67
A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people
is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The
man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further
asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again,
‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).
According to Arab culture, the bottom of feet is
considered dirty since it is the lowest part of human body along with shoes
which are always dirty when you walk outside.
So according to Islam, even the dirtiest part
of the body of your mother, opens you a door to heaven. That is the importance
of mother in Islam.
means you need to take care of your mother until her last breath and there is
no excuse for disrespecting and hurting her.
We learn something every
day, don’t we?
And, I didn’t do that swell
of a job with my mother, and disrespected her….so maybe, fat chance into heaven.
I'll leave you with this:
Lol Ruth, ZZTop was DH fav band, before Alzheimer’s. We saw them several times and as you say, they bring down the House!! Hadn’t heard about them touring for a while, but I have not looked, either...
My relationship with my parents was not that great, to say the least, although I did what was needed. Guess I’ll deal with all that ....sometime. I used to hear a lot of younger co-workers say their mom is their BF, and how they loved doing things with their parents. It was never like that when I was growing up, even with those who had better relationships than I did. Your parents were....parents, not like somebody you partied or hung out with.
Not Jewish, Christian, Muslim, Hindu. More Zen in my neck of the woods... I did find inspiration in your story... I have found inspiring many of the great thinkers, prophets and philosophers of this world. They have helped me navigate through the labyrinth of my Life's maze.
To honour and respect our parents and grandparents (parents by blood or adoption) is part of human culture and of many traditions. It is one of the many characteristics that makes us human and not uncaring beasts. It is an integral part of what is to be a human being being truly human.. At some point, we are weaned from our parents and we become householders. While in the process of weaning, we give them lots of headaches. We surely can be a pain in the butt... Ha! Been there. Done that... Ahhh! in their old-age, they become a treasure to hold and behold. Engraved in our memory after they died. For we have been nurtured and weaned and, hopefully, we have learned from them. For that, we are eternally grateful... They gave us Life!
As to heaven. Or hell... I do not believe in life after death. Heaven or hell is a dwelling place, inside my mind. Here-and-now.
I looked into the portable take-along lift, but it's so expensive and the video for it doesn't show how the patient is actually transferred from bed to the lift.
Oh well. Let's believe what we believe and be good folks most of the time (as long as we stay away from Walmart).
Don't worry Chris! I won't be behind you trying to get around. I wouldn't call you names either. I was just....a little envious of the young girl playing with her cell phone with no worries of the world...
Chris! I'm happy that you can get some respite now. I'm sure they can find some volunteers. I haven't used any for the weekends....I'm not sure if they have any right now for the weekends anyway, but I haven't asked.
Anyway, I usually ask my sister to cover if I want to go somewhere, but it's rare.
Not really a ZZ Top fan, more of an Eagles groupie. Glad you got out and enjoyed it though.