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The Man In The Mirror
My DH was diagnosed with EO at age 61. He is currently 67 and according to his Neurologist, is in the beginning to middle of stage 6. There is no incontinence, but he does have occasional bathroom accidents where he forgets to lift the seat or lower his pants. His health is very good and he even still bowls on a league. His average, of course, is not what it used to be, but he enjoys it, so we go.
The one thing that agitates him terribly is the man in the mirror. Of course, he's talking about himself. I am guessing he doesn't recognize himself. He thinks this guy lives in the house with us, travels in the car with us (in the side view mirror), and shows up at family and friends houses in their mirrors. He sees his reflection in all glass, like store windows, closed TVs, shiny cars. It's just awful. It can immediately set him off. I try to distract him, but it's not always possible. Most of the mirrors in my house now are covered. I can't cover the side view mirror in the car, or the TVs in the house, so I leave them on most of the time so he doesn't see himself there. He very seriously talks to me about collecting rent from this guy. He says how can he live here and not contribute. I can get around conversations like this, but sometimes he gets so agitated that he wants to punch the mirror.
Has anyone experienced this behavior and are there any tips you can share to help ease my DHs anxiety? Do you know if this is just a phase and will eventually pass? This is going on to some degree almost a year now. Thank you for any help you can offer.
I'm sorry your DH has dementia. I had to put flim over the bathroom mirror because mom would not go inot it because"someone was already using it". I also had to take down any large pictures on the walls because "someone is looking into the house from the open windows". It will get better in time but only because the LO is getting worse and can no longer move about as much, or verbalize. You could cover the passenger side mirror when he is sitting there and use extra caution while driving. Hang in there!