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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
First Post Here
I had been posting on the Caregiver of Spouse forum from June until yesterday. I finally feel ready to transition to this forum.
My wife died in our Livingroom.
It's been unbearably hard to accept that Sandy is gone. We had a bond that felt like electricity passing between us whether we were touching each other or just in the same room.
I still feel that energy coming from her though out the house.
It took one week after my wife died for me to hit rock bottom after experiencing three blackouts.
I've been in grief counseling for six weeks now, and just added group sessions this week.
Well, that's my introduction to this forum. I plan to scroll through threads to get a feel for other caregivers who are now survivors of caregiving, and dealing with the pain of losing their LO.
For me, right now it's feeling like half of me died with my wife that morning, and fighting a feeling since then that life is pointless now. Counseling has helped me keep my head above water.
I read your posts on the spousal boards. You took wonderful loving care of your Sandy. I am so very sorry for the pain that you surely must have felt watching your Sandy lose her abilities and her now being gone, It's just one long grief and sadness. Hold on, it does get better, with time.
I did lose a spouse and then was divorced after a 20 year marriage, to my 2nd husband.
I lost my stepfather to Parkinson's with dementia in Feb 2014. Much to my surprise, my mom was probably in stage 3 ALZ, and I thought it was just stress. She went home to the Lord in Sept 2018. I miss them so much and I try to stay busy.
There is light at the end of the tunnel.
God bless you
Tess..God bless you,too
Missher, jfkoc, Tink, and River,
Thank you for welcoming over to this side.
I appreciate the support so much, and I hope as I get help with both individual and group therapy, I can share it and help others here who are coping with the loss of a LO.
Hello Army Vet.
First let me tell you how very sorry I am for the loss of your precious wife. I lost my mom in June 2018 and I'm still trying to dig my way out of the sadness and overwhelming feeling of loss and grief. I can't imagine your pain but I know mine and it can be debilitating at times. This is a great place to be for support and just to vent. Please know you are not alone in your grieving process. I pray that your counseling is helping you make sense of this and allowing you to carry on. God Bless you.
xoxoxo - Kat
Thank you for writing back.
Yes, the counseling stopped me from self-destructing.
The day she died, I went into shock and a walking blackout.
Dealing with grief, pain, and loss this way has me not feeling like the only direction to go is down. I'm facing each of the negative feelings separately and chipping away at them with the help of counseling, family, and many of the caregivers I've "met" here the past five months.
One day at a time is my mantra right now.
I'm sorry for your loss. I want to add my welcome to this forum. It's been a place of refuge for me, even when I just come to read. My mom passed away nearly a year and a half ago; as she was entering her last days, my husband's impairments were surfacing. At that time, my son cut ties with us. As Kat said, I can't imagine your pain, but do know what it's like to be in deep despair and hope I can help support others through their grief, at least in some small way.
Thank you! I kind of like my bear avatar, too! I've been on these boards for a long time, and have had him as my "ID" all along, with the exception of a brief time when I had my own photo up. I went back to the bear for privacy reasons at a specific time in my caregiving experience. I'm an early childhood teacher, and I found the picture among my collection of downloaded materials. One member and I became good friends and e-mailed on a regular basis over the course of about three years; often the letters were opened with "Dear Mrs. Bear" so my teddy bear has a special sentiment for me as well. I'm glad he has brought you some joy, too!