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How much warning do you give LO before moving them out of their home?
It's good to think this through. It's a personal decision, but, I would read about what others have experienced in making your decision.
I would first consider that while family and friends, church members, etc. mean well, they may not really understand much about dementia. When they think they can explain something to a PWD, they have this idea that it's the same person that they have known for a long time and that the person has the ability to reason, process information and have recall. In reality, that may not be true. Depending on what stage your LO is in, she may not be able to process this information. If she is unable to live in the home due to the progression, would she likely be able to understand the reasons, accept the plan, adjust her expectations, etc.? My LO struggled greatly, even though, her doctor told her flat out that she had to have AL....she lived alone and there was no other option. So, how we put it was that she was going to AL for rehab....to get her meds straight, nutrition on track, physical therapy, etc. She went along with that. She was not able to see that she needed AL, even though, she was unable to use a phone, use a remote, prepare a meal or even a sandwich, bathe, change clothes, pay bills, etc. I'd just be careful of not expecting her to process and understand concepts that are not within her ability.
You do not. You think of the kindest, least upsetting way to move her and make it up.
The pipes have burst, MD wants you to get stronger for a bit, I have to go away a while, these ladies are going to help you and me.
No big goodbyes, no dramatic farewells. She is beyond processing that.
Read up on fiblets. Truth is beyond cruel to someone who can no longer process and use that information. It is not longer about what YOU think should be done, it's about what is kindest and helps the PWD.
THE BEST ANSWER IS THE ONE THAT BRINGS THE MOST COMFORT
Listen to King Boo. I would not give her a heads up, nor would I have the pastor or church ladies deliver any news. They mean well, but that does not mean they have any understanding of dementia. You find the therapeutic fib that will work and stick with that.
If she can forget in the span of 30 seconds that she was headed for the shower, she is not going to retain any logic that anyone lays out for her regarding needing to move in a few weeks. Doing so will likely just cause heartbreak at the time that accomplishes nothing. It's going to be a work with the moment at hand kind of move. If the church folks put their "money where their mouth is" so to speak, it will not be goodbye; they will be visiting her in memory care.