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I'm 15, My mom has EO Alzheimers
clouds-I am so sorry for what you are going through with this wretched disease and for the implications it has for your life going forward as a young woman. Your mom's confusion around work is not that unusual among those with Alzheimer's. Often they sort of time travel back to different periods of time in their lives. Often they fixate on something that was a responsibility for them- work, the care of young children or their late parents. Sometimes it's best not to directly contradict them, but to relieve their anxiety by offering a "fiblet" that gets them off the hook- it's the weekend, the little ones went home or the parents are at their cabin at the lake with no phone access. Sometimes identifying important people in their lives is derailed by this time travel glitch- in her mind, at the moment, she may hold an image of you as a much younger child. My dad spent a lot of his time around 1976 which was a happy time for him. He knew who I was, but he couldn't relate to the really old-looking woman who claimed to be his wife of 60 years. For support, you are always welcome here. You are also welcome to call the 800 number associated with this site and ask to speak to a care coordinator- this service is free. When my dad was diagnosed, my mom and I attended a local IRL support group with a professional leader; I wonder if such a leader might know of other younger people who have this in common with you. I also got my mom a therapist to give her a safe place to share and vent; I think it would be a terrific idea for you if you could manage it. I like this quick read for understanding Alzheimer's-
You are 15. This should not be your burden to handle alone. Is there another adult in your household? Dad? Stepdad? Boyfriend? If so, talk to them and ask that they be honest with you. They may be trying to shield you. Let them know it's not working.
If there is not another adult, is there family who can help? Aunts? Uncles? You need an adult to navigate what is ahead.
If there are no adults, call the 800 Alzheimer's number and explain what is happening. They should be able to guide you in where to look for help next. And you do and will need help. You cannot do this yourself.
You are 15. You are in school. Make an appointment with your guidance counselor and speak about what is happening. You are going to need emotional support through this.
If you attend church regularly talk to your pastor. Pastors are often aware of the appropriate community help and can guide you in accessing it.
There is help for you and your mom. Keep asking until you get it. (I am so sorry you are dealing with this when at 15 your biggest worry should be what to wear to school tomorrow.)
Clouds- I have a daughter your age. The message below is from her.
Hello I am also 15 (this is my mom's account she saw this and showed me your message) and my father also has early onset alzheimers. I understand how you feel about telling your friends about it because they can never quite put their feet in yours shoes, although they try their best to. My friends still come over and by now they are pretty used to some of the odd and unpredictable things my dad does. One day he confused one of my friends for me. We were playing mario kart on the sofa. He thought she was me and told her he liked my new hairstyle. My friend and I look nothing alike. It was funny and sad at the same time.
My dad still recognizes me as his daughter, and I'm quite thankful for it, but he has had some issues recognizing my mom. I'm a little surprised because she's with him 24/7 meanwhile I'm often at school and doing sports so i would think he may remember my mother a little better. Anyways, just know you're not the only teen going through this.
I have nothing to add but I just wanted to say you are a brave girl
and I wish you the best of luck to you and your family.
You are not alone. We are all sending blessings your way. Check with your local Alzheimer's Association to find out about local support groups. We had an 18 year old girl attend our group and we were a resource for her when she needed help.