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jdmg1 - My H spent the last year proclaiming "I don't eat meat" and that included chicken, too. It's been a nightmare since I'm usually watching carbs and want/need lean proteins. He could remember this no meat preference until a month ago. (cue sound of angels singing). He has forgotten and now eats whatever I make. Well, he'll still declare he doesn't eat chicken or turkey, but eats it when I serve it to him. We have fish twice a week, but he certainly wasn't getting enough protein without meat.
His preference is ice cream, cookies, cake, juice, donuts, etc.
Interesting post. My DW has EOAD and I have done all of the cooking for the last 2 years. She used to love my home made soups, and especially loved wild caught salmon with baked little red potatoes with broccoli, , but does not care much for anything nutritious anymore. If she had her choice we would run down to the A&W Root Beer stand every day for a hot dog or hamburger.
I am a poor cook, and I hate cooking. But I have been doing all the cooking for about the last 6 months. There are a few things I can make that will pass the taste test, but won't win any prizes.
Like many others here, my wife has had changing dishes that will get a "like". She does not eat much at all, but enough to keep her going. Meals are problematic for me, but we somehow make it.
This topic sure resonates!
DW was a superb cook, an avid reader of the old Gourmet magazine, Bon Appetit, etc. One of the early indications of the onset of AD was her decreased ability to follow a recipe, or to remember how to make dishes she’d made for years.
Nowadays it’s up to me to put meals on the table. Have used HomeChef and Blue Apron, as it offers variety and convenience, plus no waste/leftover ingredients.
But DW’s likes and dislikes have changed dramatically and unpredictably, and it’s hard to know what she’ll eat or not eat. We all know that we should be eating Mediterranean diets but DW favors carbs and sweets—and no longer likes chicken et al. I am worried that she does not get sufficient lean protein in her diet. She used to refuse to drink Ensure, but has done a 180 and now loves it!
Change, change, change...
I wonder at what stage change in taste buds happens. DH too has changed his likes and preferences. He isn't a pure vegetarian but tells me he no longer likes meat. He doesn't like dressing on his green salads. Staples have become cheese, crackers, nuts/trail mix, fruits, pies/pastries, juice/soda. He isn't losing weight - he eats often.
I wonder if this related to memory loss.
Thanks, Eric. I know that one day I’ll need to worry that DW isn’t eating enough, or isn’t eating at all, is losing weight at an alarming weight, and so on.
Still, meals are challenging since I don’t know what is liked and what isn’t. And an hour after lunch, DW is asking for dinner. She used to have a perfect shut-off valve when she’d eaten enough and that is gone.
I’m listening to an audiobook version of Pauline Boss’s “Loving Someone Who Has Dementia” and she describes a series of losses that we have to acknowledge and mourn. In a sense, DW is always leaving.