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Help on dealing with obsessive behavior
My 84-year old mother had a stroke almost a year ago and has lost some control and use of her left hand. We have been to several doctors and had OT come to the house to help her with exercises. She does not understand that she had a stroke and says she hurt her arm when she fell. She does not grasp the fact that her hand will never be the same. Every day she makes comments about her hand not working and every couple of months she asks to go to the doctor for her hand. (she lives with me) Up until now, we have had other appointments scheduled where I can bring it up to try and get her off my back (I'm frustrated if you couldn't tell), because she just won't let it go. She thinks she needs an x-ray or shot, but the doctors don't do that as they know it is due to the stroke. Is there anything I can do to get her to move on from this, or I am stuck dealing with the comments and pestering to go see a doctor? Do I just need to suck it up every few months and take her to the doctor knowing there is no solution? I find I am losing my patience with this (I know the hand isn't going to improve and she is unable to move past it) and don't know what to do. She gets irritated with me when I tell her I'm not taking her to the doctor, but it gets brought up at least once a day lately, sometimes more.
If the doctors have no further treatment for her, you can validate her concerns by simple massage, movement exercises, and perhaps a sling to wear for a few hours. Her complaints are real to her.