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Caregivers Who Have Lost Someone
Anybody else going stir crazy over these COVID-19 restrictions?
The local Alzheimer's Association has cancelled all support group meetings until further notice. Yes, they're offering conference call meetings, but that's just not the same as seeing them in the flesh. I had hoped to start going to a women's Bible study or volunteering somewhere, but that won't happen for awhile.
As if being a dementia caregiver wasn't isolating enough...
I'm so sorry Elaine, that really is difficult. Do you have any family you can reach out to in the meantime? We are always here for you when you need us so please reach out to us. Hang in there; things have to get better eventually.
love to you
xoxoxox - Kat
I'll skype with you if you have a skype acct, Elaine. Just let me know and I'll tell you my username.
No reason to be isolated. You can still take walks and commune with Mother Nature (she's the best!) You can call on friends. I have talk to at least one old friend everyday since the stay at home protocol was put in effect in my hometown. I picked up take-out yesterday from my fav restaurant and chatted with the grateful owner. I have many Facebook "friends" and look at their timelines and leave messages. My town has a need for Meals on Wheels volunteers since they still must provide food for their seniors and shut ins. Lots can still be done to be a part of the community and get out and help and see other people. Good luck!
I have just enough to keep me occupied and distracted from going stir crazy, but......
Today, I've become really frustrated with the quarantining.
I went to the supermarket and bought a bouquet of flowers to put on my wife's grave. I do this on each monthly anniversary of her death.
I drove out there and found the cemetery locked. The management posted a sign saying to prevent the spread of the virus nobody would be allowed into the cemetery....
I can go into a supermarket and stand next to dozens of people, but I can't visit my wife in a field where I've yet to come across a single person in six months of visits...
This is the one time of each month I literally need to be near my wife to talk to her.
I am so sorry this happened I feel your frustration. Of all places to close you would not think a cemetery would be one of them. Your in my thoughts. Hugs
Hi, Army Vet, I'm so sorry this happened to you!!!!! Of all places, the cemetery! I feel so sad for you. I know your wife still appreciates that you care and that you remember her. In my culture, when a person dies, that's the first death, but it is when a person stops talking of that person, that's the second death. So keep talking about your wife! That keeps her alive!
Someone who persists in talking about my dad and mom,
Because I still love them dearly,
If you're acknowledging your parents, they know it and appreciate it.
Elaine, I'm so sorry. You are in my prayers. I can't imagine what it must be like to grieve the loss of a loved one on top of the quarantine situations that are going on. I've found with each loss, that people come around to give their condolences, attend the funeral, send cards, etc., but soon they go back to their own lives, which is when the lonely feelings hit hardest. I am just in the beginning of things with my husband, and know that one day, if I outlive him, I will be in the same shoes as others here.
Our state is not in lockdown, although the governor and the mayor of my town declared a state of emergency. There is a press conference being held by the governor tomorrow, and the announcement may bring a change. Most in my area are expecting a shelter in place mandate. We are already being advised to self-quarantine, use social distancing, and follow all the other recommendations. I work in a childcare facility, and am considered an essential worker. Unless we are closed down, I will need to continue working. I am staying home when not at work. Our local stores have set aside the first hours of their day for elderly and medically compromised shoppers; if I absolutely have to go to the store, I do so in the evenings. The stores have been virtually empty at 8 pm. Unfortunately, I've heard reports of people crowding stores earlier in the day, standing shoulder to shoulder, and the beaches were filled with visitors who were in no way observing social distancing. Because of the crowded situation, the coastal towns are closing their doors to visitors.
I'm sorry, too, Army Vet, that the cemetery was closed to visitors. I don't understand, either, how some places can be so full of people in close contact but a place like a cemetery can be closed. As I have been staying home, I've been going through a lot of pictures and putting them in albums. So many of them are of my mom and others who have gone on. I've been able to look at these without crying, for once. My phone takes a pretty decent picture of a photograph, so through the magic of technology it's been nice to send these to relatives and have virtual chats about family history.
I wish us all well during these times of added stress and struggle!