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Spouse or Partner Caregiver Forum
Thanks Ed and Marie for responding. I envision a scenario along the line of Marie’s comment. If I were there to push the buttons everything would be fine, but I doubt she could do it on her own and there is a potential for creating more problems than it is solving. I guess I could try with an inexpensive seat adaptor to see how it goes and then possibly up grade to a better model if it works out. It just seems like a great solution to personal hygiene issues.
I will report back if I decide to try one out.
When we added another bathroom to the cottage, I went all out and had the Brondell Swash 1400 installed. It has all the bells and whistles, remote control, heated seat, heated water, nightlight, etc. It was very pricey. DH is not interested in using the bidet seat. Its interesting to me because he spent time in Europe and was very familiar with bidets. So far, the only time DH used the bidet, I operated the bidet using the remote control. I don't think DH has the ability to use the bidet seat independently.
If I had it to do all over again, I would not have invested in the Brondell Swash 1400, not because it is not a quality product. I think it is a fine product. However, I think another product would be more suitable for our needs. My interest now is in the hand held Aquaus 360. It is much much LESS expensive. I have not tried the Aqaus 360 yet, but it is definitely better suited for our budget and looks like it is better suited for cleaning someone else's hiney
For no particular reason beyond my vague sense that it might become useful, I got a Kohler with most of the bells and whistles except the remote control. I think it was around $500. I am sure that DW, even now in the early middle-stage, will never be able to learn to operate it independently. But it seems possible that the day might come when she would sit on the toilet and put up with me operating the controls. If that were to ever be the case, I would definitely swap ours out for one with remote controls vs. the current controls sticking out from the side of the seat. Other than some mild suggestions that she might like it, I have never encouraged DW to use the seat-top bidet and she has shown no curiosity. My approach has mostly been to treat it as a big luxury for me and she has no clue that it has anything to do with her. The fact is--and I was surprised by this-- that it really is something of a luxury that I like using. Automatic person detection when you sit down. A quickly and well heated seat. Well aimed streams of warm/hot water. A nice flow of warm air. All sorts of options for temperature selections (seat, water, air), flow (continuous or pulsating) etc. Self cleaning. Odor control, though that's mostly a pipe dream. And the blue water night light, useless as it seems to be, looks cool. Now that I've figured it out, almost never a need for TP unless to speed drying. Whether or not it ever becomes useful for DW, this DH will never go back to TP alone.
Having read the other comments, maybe some combo of a bidet seat and Lady Texan's suggested Aqaus hand-spray system would be ideal for assisting some of our spouses/partners.