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Daughter80
Posted: Thursday, June 23, 2022 12:04 AM
Joined: 12/10/2021
Posts: 109


Just thinking that with all of the horrific things we see and experience as caregivers it might be nice to share moments of joy here. Can you share a story of joy, happiness, laughter….?

Today I moved a load of things into my mom’s MC apartment. As we got to her apartment just outside of her door there was an old man in a wheelchair. He asked me where the bathroom was and told me that after he found the bathroom he would come back to wait for the bus. We dropped some things off in her apartment and then went back out to the car to grab some more things. When we came back in, the door to her apartment was open. He had wheeled himself into her apartment. I knelt down and asked his name. He proceeded to search in his pocket (he had no pocket) for a quarter. Then he acted so surprised. He said he had gone and gotten new slacks today ( he was wearing sweatpants) and he must have left his change in his other pockets. I asked if I could help get him home and he let me push his chair out the door. As we went out the door he must have thought he was on the bus and he asked if he could just pay me back later. 

The whole time he had a lap full of raisins that he was eating on. This just makes me giggle. He was adorable. As awful as this all is I hope to continue to be grateful for any moment of joy along the journey. 

My mom always tells me what a blessing this dementia is because it brought her out to be with me and my family. If she can find a blessing in her diagnosis I can be grateful for any moment of peace, joy, laughter, camaraderie, etc. 


CatsWithHandsAreTrouble
Posted: Thursday, June 23, 2022 7:59 AM
Joined: 5/11/2022
Posts: 72


Thank you for sharing such a nice story while in the middle of moving your mom.

I have a little story from this morning. I was sitting at the kitchen table with my mom who was eating a bagel with apple butter that was cut into eight pieces. She was the only one eating since I had already ate. Usually my sister sits with her but she was running behind so I did it this morning. My mom noticed that I didn't have anything to eat so she slid her plate over and asked if I wanted any. I only took one but gave her a hearty thanks. I'm so glad that she's still wanting to share with others.


May flowers
Posted: Thursday, June 23, 2022 8:42 AM
Joined: 4/9/2021
Posts: 513


We have so many sweet stories from my FIL’s MC stay! One was we were sitting in the commons area with all the residents and half were dozing, the other half were working on activities. Some how the topic of dancing came up and all of them piped up, those sleeping woke up, and they had stories about dancing. One of them said they needed to have a dance contest, stood up and started dancing with one of thr nurses, and another one started singing. It was awesome…

Another sweet one was this lady who was professionally dressed stopped us and asked us if we needed help. She showed us where things were and to let her know if we needed anything. Then we noticed her arranging activities on the table and told us she was about to start a new activity with the group. So, we thought she worked there, until we saw one of the caregivers redirect her. 

My FIL’s neighbor knocked on his door every morning and walked with him to breakfast (well, FIL walked, the neighbor was in a wheelchair). That was his breakfast/coffee buddy

 


toolbeltexpert
Posted: Thursday, June 23, 2022 9:13 AM
Joined: 4/17/2018
Posts: 630


I wished I could think of one right now, but I do find some comfort reading these sweet stories.  I visited a lot of mcf and loved so many, never met a pwd in a mcf that I didn't love and wouldn't trade a minute of it except that they wouldn't have dementia. I often lead someone home or assured them that the bill was paid, their home was still OK. The fears they had so real to them.
Daughter80
Posted: Thursday, June 23, 2022 4:11 PM
Joined: 12/10/2021
Posts: 109


These stories are just so sweet. Any kindness to a PWD makes my heart happy. I’ve honestly been amazed at how most people seem to notice something is not ok with my mom and will go out of their way to help or be kind.
​fesk
Posted: Thursday, June 23, 2022 7:44 PM
Joined: 1/11/2013
Posts: 130


I'll add one. I was having a particularly emotional day as I'm sure we all have had. I try my best not to get upset or cry in front of my mother, but couldn't hold back the tears that day. My mother looked at me and asked me what was wrong. She then took my hand and said come here -  I'll take care of you. Well, of course, that made my cry more! But, I have to say it's pretty amazing for as advanced as things are, she's still being my mom.
kenneth08
Posted: Friday, June 24, 2022 8:36 AM
Joined: 6/23/2022
Posts: 2


Oh my God, thank you for sharing such stories. I feel much better. Thank you very much people for sharing them.
virginia0806
Posted: Friday, June 24, 2022 10:55 AM
Joined: 6/24/2022
Posts: 2


It is so important to share this experience, so we can support each other in this way,thank you
May flowers
Posted: Friday, June 24, 2022 11:29 AM
Joined: 4/9/2021
Posts: 513


Another sweet thing I saw at MC was a man who lived in the independent living wing of the facility, eat meals with his wife who resided in MC and walk with her every day. They were so sweet together.

That has made me hope that if my DH and I ever face this in one of us, we would have the resources to do the same.


Sayra
Posted: Friday, June 24, 2022 12:04 PM
Joined: 8/10/2016
Posts: 3657


Thank all of you for sharing.  I enjoyed the thread.
RobinNicole
Posted: Friday, June 24, 2022 3:14 PM
Joined: 7/14/2021
Posts: 26


Hi all 

Will add a couple stories since it lifts us up 

My mom has been in AL / MC for 3 months ( can’t believe it’s been that long) and although she had some bumps has settled in very well.  At first she “didn’t like” some folks - including one man who always seemed to complain.  They now are besties and she introduces him to me as a wonderful nice man   There is even a bit of flirting going on.  I cannot emphasize how different things are.  She has friends and gets invited to the “cool kids table” but the sweet thing is she is kind to everyone and will help others but then make an excuse so “she can get away”.  It reminds me of middle school ( or maybe the playground” and she is navigating the personalities, looking out for others further along but then being human and wanting a break

She also has worn a baseball hat for last few years as she has very thin hair and is very self conscious.  A friend got her to take it off and another nice man told her he had never seen her without the hat and that she was beautiful.   I am hoping that she remembers that and feels comfortable without it.  I love hearing about her interactions from her visitors.  The nice stories keep us going


Daughter80
Posted: Saturday, June 25, 2022 7:38 AM
Joined: 12/10/2021
Posts: 109


These are all so sweet!  Love them. Thank you all for sharing.
GothicGremlin
Posted: Saturday, June 25, 2022 4:49 PM
Joined: 4/7/2019
Posts: 376


There are a few - mostly involving staff. 

Peggy's memory care is blessed with some truly exceptional staff members. It doesn't matter when I walk in, but I always see staff helping residents, bringing them snacks, taking them to the restrooms, all the while saying things like "come this way, sweetie", and smiling as they do it.  I know part of this is their job, but rarely, rarely do I ever see exasperation or frustration. 

Staff are incredibly nice to Peggy. There's one staff member who always does Peggy's hair. She doesn't have to do this, but she does, and Peggy's hair usually ends up in elaborate braids, buns, or pony tails.  Peggy loves this.

A different staff member makes sure that Peggy can occasionally watch Walking Dead. Of course Peggy can't follow the plot anymore, but she still remembers that she liked the show. This staff member will occasionally use her own netflix account and turn on a random episode for Peggy (in Peggy's room where she has a tv, but away from other residents who probably wouldn't enjoy watching the mayhem of the zombie apocalypse.)  That's over and above in my books.

Good hair days as the norm and zombies are not exactly what I think of when I think of memory care. 



Stuck in the middle
Posted: Saturday, June 25, 2022 7:11 PM
Joined: 6/4/2017
Posts: 1929


My wife is one of the minority who knows she has dementia.  When I put her to bed, she usually says she loves me or says "Thank you for taking care of me" or says "I'm so glad I have someone who takes care of me, because I'd be up the creek without it."  


Daughter80
Posted: Monday, June 27, 2022 8:01 AM
Joined: 12/10/2021
Posts: 109


I love all of these stories. My mom is similar stuck in the middle. She knows she has dementia and always thanks me for what I do for her. So hard, but so sweet. 
 
Yesterday I took her to church and she has only been in a MC community for two nights. She looks awful and is struggling so much. She is, of course confused and anxious. As I drove her to church she cried saying she was always the last to know. I told her I was sorry it felt that way, but I had told her and if I could fix her memory I would. She then asked about each detail like. “Where do I live? Can I bring my dog? Where will my sister live?”  And this woman, who has lost everything, was moved two days ago, is anxious and scared looks at me and says that she will have to adjust. She told me that since she will live alone now she will work to make friends and join activities. How someone in the absolute worst situation can decide to make the best of it seems impossible to me. She is amazing. Inspiring and my hero.
May flowers
Posted: Monday, June 27, 2022 8:15 AM
Joined: 4/9/2021
Posts: 513


Daughter and stuck, how sweet and brave your LOs are. Hold their words close to your heart during difficult times when they can’t communicate anymore (((hugs)))
 
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