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How to plan for the future?
A great first step if you and your mom haven't done this already is to see an elder law attorney who can assist you with the legal and, if not offer some level of financial planning, refer you to someone who specializes in end-of-life planning. They can also help with medical end of life planning. You may have to consult one in Canada and one in the state your mom resides in to be on the safe side of both governments. I suspect getting all this done will take a weight off you and your mom's shoulders.
I would also contact her state or county's aging and disabilities office. They should have information about potential day centers in the area, caregiver resources that may be available locally (there's always the big guys to go to, but there might be something more homegrown in your mom's area), memory care facilities. Now, you don't have to act on any of this, but knowing who to call and what kind of info they can supply will help when it is time to potentially need these resources. It's also a good way to start doing a little budgeting - find out the average hourly rate for in-home companions now, assisted living, memory cares to figure out some financial needs in the future.
Dementia is super overwhelming, especially in the beginning, so don't rush you or your mom to know everything right now. It's all problem solving all the time so don't burn out in the first couple of years! It's also love, frustration, laughter, guilt, heartbreak, and hilarity. It's a wild ride! Keep coming here for questions, venting, empathy, and some funny stories here and there! And good luck to you both.
p.s. One of my blog posts covers the more common behaviors your dementia person may experience, you might find it useful to be aware of some of the challenges that may be coming you and your mom's way. https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/every-dementia-person-is-different
I manage my mother's care long distance - we are 1500 miles apart. I make lots of trips, write lots of emails, and make lots of phone calls. My mom is in a facility so we can only facetime if someone has a cell phone with the software to assist.
I would encourage you to find a virtual caregiver support group within you or your mom's local chapter (https://www.alz.org/local_resources/find_your_local_chapter).
My group meets online every Wednesday at 5pm with Zoom. At first, I was like do I need a support group? But I have found answers to questions from people in the group who have already walked the path, sympathy, and solutions to problems.
There are also resources for Long-Distance Caregiving