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  • User Sueshee asked: 9/26/2016 12:15:27 AM | Daily Care

    Brace yourself this is pretty graphic but I need advice......My LO only drinks Ensure shakes for food. Has not had solid foods for 4-5 months. Usually her BMs are loose and manageable. She still walks and can climb into the shower each day to clean up. She has never had diarrhea in the 14 months I have taken care of her. She is late stage 6 Alzheimers and is incontinent both ways and wears diapers. Today she had solid BMs and a boat loads. It just kept coming faster than I could deal with it. How can this be? She only drinks her meals and not much. Why would it be solid all the sudden and soooooo much? In fact, today I could only get two Plus shakes down her. HELP!!!!!

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/26/2016 8:34:51 AM

      Hi Sueshee, Do call her doctor ASAP.

  • User Tmunsell asked: 9/25/2016 8:03:52 PM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    I am caring for my 92 year old grandmother and she has become very angry and aggressive. She has been hallucinating and seeing people who aren''t there. She believes that they are there to take her home and her things. She has become very angry towards my mother...her daughter and believes thatcmy mother knows these people and are allowing them in and to do these things. She tries to leave the house and gets very aggressive and physical at times. This is especially true w my mother...she is a huge trigger. She is worse at night and will stay up for hours at a time. Sometimes she is up over 24 hours and we can''t get her to sleep. We have taken her to the ER and they suggested a nursing home or a assisted living. Her doctor recommends that as well and nothing else. My mother and uncle are not ready to put my grandmother in a nursing home yet and my mother and uncle are becoming bitter towards each other and very very overwhelmed and exhausted! I work overnight w my grandmother and help as much as I can, what are some things we can do to help my grandmother when she becomes so angry and aggitated? I speak and a soft tone and very kindly as well as reassuring her that she is safe and nothing is going to happen to her. Sometimes though she gets so angry that there is nothing you can do to calm her down, I was wondering if somebody might have some suggestions.

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/26/2016 8:40:57 AM

      From your library ask for a copy of any book by Naomi Feil with the word Validation in the title. Perhaps some meds may help temporarily but do use this Method. The locked memory Unit in Assisted Living may be a good fit. But do look carefully. Especially ask about staff training. Ask if they are trained in the Validation Method. Do call our help line: 1-800-272-3900 and ask for someone who can help with recommendations for Grandma''s behavior.

  • User ChuckFrench asked: 9/24/2016 10:08:02 PM | Wandering

    I would like to buy her an ID bracelet

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    • User Sueshee replied: 9/26/2016 12:28:34 AM

      I ordered a really nice one off - good price and got it quick - you can have it engraved which you need to do.

    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/25/2016 6:17:53 PM

      Sorry Chuck, I thought I had posted the answer this morning. Just put Alzheimer''s Store in your search engine.

  • User wayback asked: 9/23/2016 2:55:47 PM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    My mother is 89 and has never really been diagnosed with dementia. Yet, her doctor put her on Aricept for her memory. She has good days and weird ones. She''s been having bad dreams and also says that there are people in her house that she actually sees and also outside in the backyard. My sister & I had to go over the other night cause people were outside dancing and wouldn''t leave. She is married, he''s 94! I try to calm her down and just tell her next time she sees anyone outside to not open the door, but look out the window and yell that the police are on their way, that would make them leave. She thought that was a good idea and felt a little better. I don''t really know the right thing to say or do to help her. She says she knows we don''t believe her. She has a home health nurse that comes to check on her every other week and she talked to me about her seeing people. She talked to her doctor and he said to tell mother not to take her Aricept for a week and if she still sees things, to come in & see him. Well, she still sees them and is scared to stay alone when my stepdad has to run errands. I''ve been suggesting they move into a retirement home w/ an assisted living area in case they need it. She''s almost for it, but he is very prideful and doesn''t think they are old!! He doesn''t really understand there''s anything wrong with mother, only that she''s just forgetful sometimes, which bothers me.(denial maybe?) This is new to my sister & I. She still works everyday and I retired 2 yrs. ago, so I''m the main one mother calls for everything. One more thing, I talked to mother about if stepdad was her POA or if anyone was, she said no, they have a will, but I don''t trust that he would really understand the right thing to do for her if it comes to it. She has her own money & they have money jointly. Any suggestions would be great. Sorry this is so long. Thank You.

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/23/2016 6:44:57 PM

      Dear Wayback Do call our help line 1-800-272-3900 and ask to speak with a Care Consultant. I suspect your doctor is thinking she has a type of dementia for which Aricept is contraindicated. Which is why I get so angry when doctors diagnose without the necessary tests and experteese. Possibly some drugs can be used temporarily. In either of her books on Validation Method, Naomi Feil discusses this. Please ask your library for a copy.

  • User vbb asked: 9/23/2016 10:36:22 AM | Working with a Health Care Team

    My mom has later stage Alzheimers. She has a lot of anxiety. currently on Neudexta and haven''t seen much change.
    Appreciate any feedback from those who experienced anxiety and medications that work. Thank you

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/23/2016 6:46:16 PM

      The second part of Naomi Feil''s, Validation Method discusses of of life treatment. Do consult with Hospice.

  • User Latteforlori asked: 9/22/2016 5:20:24 PM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    my Mother has been kicked out of her first memory care after 24 hours then place in gero pysch to get her meds evaluated. We placed her into another more secure memory care and after 3.5 they have sent her back to gero pysch to be evaluated again. He screams, kicks, hits, yells, tries kissing the men, touches people inappropriately, stay up all night. tries to escape. just down right mean. she takes off her clothes and flashes people . She does not know family and asked for her son ( I think she means my father) a lot and mother. both are deceased. My father recently passed away after caring for her for years. She is physically healthy at 85 and is entering the later stages of Alzhiemers. starting to be incontinent . Any ideas on how to help her adjust in her new facility.

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/22/2016 8:02:37 PM

      Welcome to our world Latteforiari, You are having a tough road. I hope you have had an honest talk with staff about the problems you mom has had in the past. What can the new place offer? Have staff received training in the Feil Validation Method? If so, that is a super plus. If not, do strongly advise they look into it. Some places can get good behavior by heavily drugging patients. You may need some drugs at first, but you do want them tapered off so your loved one does not feel as though they are a zombie.

  • User rose0630 asked: 9/22/2016 7:00:58 AM | Working with a Health Care Team

    stages of alz

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/22/2016 8:04:08 PM

      Do put this question in your browser. There are several different list from early stage, moderate and final to stage to very detailed sub-catyegories. Depends on what you''re looking for.

  • User Bentley6 asked: 9/21/2016 8:52:18 PM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    My mother has been waking up a short time after going to bed and is confused about where she lives. This is a new symptom, but a scary one for her, she seems frightened. I need to reassure her she lives in my home with me. Anyone have someone with this, any meds that can help?

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/22/2016 7:54:12 AM

      Do check with her neurologist about this. Also, from our library ask for a copy of any book by Naomi Feil with te woerd Validation in the title. The use of her method should decease the need for such meds.

  • User ccasorio24 asked: 9/21/2016 8:14:10 PM | Legal/Financial

    What can I do to get my mom the help she needs if there is no POA or guardian and she refuses to sign one. To go for guardianship, it starts at 10 grand and I can''t do that. There is no financial help in my state nor an attorney that will go based on sliding scale. If anyone has any info PLEASE share! Tricking her will not work in the least~~

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    • User Latteforlori replied: 9/22/2016 4:45:40 PM

      get 2-3 doctors notes that she incapable of making decisions for her well being. Then go online to your court and pull up guardian papers. fill them out and file them yourself.

    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/22/2016 7:55:30 AM

      I would suggest calling our help line: 1-800-272-3900 and discuss the situation.

  • User MrsSoule asked: 9/21/2016 5:16:45 PM | Care Options/Transitions

    How do I find a respite care facility in my area? (Monterey, CA 92940)

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    • User Latteforlori replied: 9/22/2016 4:46:27 PM

      a place for mom its free . look it up on the web

    • User Mimi S. replied: 9/21/2016 6:43:48 PM

      Doc all our help line 1-800-272 3900 or both the local Aging Office and the local Alz Assoc. office.

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