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  • User Jabl asked: 12/7/2016 9:37:39 AM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    My mom is a child looking for her mommy and daddy. She and my father both have dementia and live in assisted living. She has been crying a lot because she cant find her parents. My sister and I are considering buying her a baby doll or a stuffed bear,but are not sure if that would comfort her .We have told her that they will be back for her soon and that seems to help .The staff at assisted living have been telling her the same as what we have been telling her.sometimes she thinks that her husband is her Dad , that is really confusing for my Dad.Any recommendations on the baby doll or stuffed bear would be appreciated.

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/8/2016 7:41:01 AM

      By all means a large stuffed bear or soft doll that can be changed. As the disease progresses, a patients sense of tie retreats. So your mo is now living in the time her parents were alive. When she is there, encourage her to talk about what she will be doing when they get her. Find phots from that time period. Songs, movies, etc. Naomi Feil explains this in greater detail in her books on her Validation Method. Ask at your library.

  • User Samma asked: 12/5/2016 6:16:12 PM | Legal/Financial

    My father has AZ and has been in denial for years and will not allow us to help him. He has Paranoid Personality Disorder and is terrified of being "locked up". he can no longer function very well on his own and my sister and I are afraid we need to petition the court for Guardianship to get him into a facility. We know he won''t go willingly! How can we handle this??

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/6/2016 8:52:38 AM

      Do call our help line 1800-272-3900 on how to petition the court.

  • User asked: 12/5/2016 2:49:55 PM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    LO is 88 has alz has recently become sexual aggressive. Is there a medicine he can take to stop this?

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  • User mrl asked: 12/4/2016 7:22:58 AM | Care Options/Transitions


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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/4/2016 8:36:01 PM

      Was positiv e I postged an answer. too long to answer here. Go to one of Caregiver Message Boards and in archives, enter the word. Repost your question there. Almostyno oner posts here.

  • User duffer asked: 12/3/2016 6:44:48 PM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    Should I tell DW when she is confused and thinks I am her father who has been dead for almost 20 years?

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/3/2016 8:10:16 PM

      Absoltuely not!!!!!! What would ig accomplish? Do read Feil, Anything with Validation in the title. As the disease progresses the patients concept of time regresses. Your wife is now living in te time period in which her dad was alive. Do visit te Spousal Section of the Message Boads.

  • User Nevergivingup asked: 12/3/2016 2:43:10 PM | Daily Care

    How do you allow your parents to make decisions, but when necessary make the decision for them? Why would aides use the parents to cause confusion? Example: (I say) You should have done---. (They say) Well mama said this----. I have given out the protocol and the aides did not follow it and most of the times will not follow it. . I need to handle this and keep harmony and happiness in the process.

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/3/2016 8:11:19 PM

      I''m not following. Do repost on the Caregivers section of the message boards.

  • User e-magazine guy asked: 12/3/2016 1:04:07 PM | Care Options/Transitions

    My wife is sleeping fairy good at night and now is sleeping during the day about four to six hours, I would appreciate any answers why she is sleeping more during the day and what this may mean about her health and or changes of her Alzheimer''s stages of her disease. Thanks for your help and comments

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/3/2016 8:12:41 PM

      Do repost on the Spousal section of Message Boards. A lot may depend on the stage of the disease.

    • User Chabaka replied: 12/3/2016 7:17:42 PM

      My husband is doing the same. He sleeps all night though so I let him. Watches a lot of TV. Have to work hard to get him to do much of anything. He does like to work around the yard at his pace but now it''s winter here in Ohio. Hopefully we can get more responses. I''ll remember you in my prayers tonight. This is a difficult situation.

  • User cyndo asked: 12/3/2016 11:28:53 AM | Family/Relationships

    My mother thinks her daughter is dead and I took her daughter''s identification and her car. How can I get my Mother back? I was her caregiver but she kicked me out of the house and won''t answer the door or phone. My step father says there is nothing we can do. Doe''s anyone have any info on this for me? Thank you

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/3/2016 8:14:39 PM

      Do call our help line and ask to speak to a care consultant. 1-800-272-3900 You canalso repost on te caregivers section of message boards.

  • User Mrs.K asked: 12/2/2016 10:44:55 PM | Care Options/Transitions

    A year ago my brother and sister moved my Mom to a Seniors Apartment facility. My Sister lives closest to my Mom and she is very resentful towards the rest of us because of the situation. My brother basically looked at the place and said this is where she is moving and didn''t look at any other facilities. There are 8 of us kids and 3 of us live out of state, 2 brothers are Dairy Farmers, so that leaves a brother and sister that are retired and another sister that still works full time in Wisconsin., I offered more then once for Mom to come and live with us, but she gets so home sick for Wisconsin. I have had her here with me in Texas 2 different times and she just gets very quiet and she just gets so homesick.
    Because Mom''s Dementia has worsened they now have put her in an Assisted Living Facility. My Sister said Mom will run out of money in one year and then the Government will take over, is this true or what happens? Will they kick her out of there or what? Also isn''t it better for our Mom to spend as much time as possible with family to keep her mind sharp? They have put her in this place where she doesn''t know anyone. My heart just breaks every time I think of her as she has always been such a good Mom to all of us. Thank you to anyone that might read this.

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/3/2016 7:53:50 AM

      There are some excellent Assisted Living Residences. And there are poor ones. The one I have chosen for myself has six activities daily that provide physical cognitive and social activities. These are provided at all levels. An activity director helps find actiivities that interest each person. A good ALF can be a better place than home where the person is just wih a Caregiver, no activities and no socialization. That is not to say that family is not important. They need to visit and be aware of what''s going on. Please go to the Caregivers section of Message Boards ad repost your note. You should get replies o bothsides of the questio.

  • User Nana Is 100 asked: 12/2/2016 2:22:52 PM | Symptoms/Behaviors

    Best device for music therapy/ipod?

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    • User Mimi S. replied: 12/2/2016 7:37:38 PM

      Depends on stage of participant. Anything that makes sound....sticks, bells, drums. Pease do repost on one of the Caregivers sections of the Message Boards. You will get moreresponses.

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